Eat good, feel good, do good

Author:  Mark Peterson
Categories:  Uncategorized

The wisest man in the world writes in Ecclesiastes that only three things satisfy. Your wife, your work, and food. I talk about the first two often so let’s talk about food.

I love food, it’s amazing really. All flesh come from grass, and all produce is captured solar energy and soil nutrients.  It’s Gods gift to us, fully connecting us to creation. Food is fuel, it gives us life. Its communion, its art, its sensual. Geography is defined by it. Family/friends connect over it. Food brings pleasure, contentment, thankfulness; it makes us grateful. Types of food and their smells bring back memories of happy times with people we love. Next to sex it’s the most intimate thing we can do. We take it into our bodies and it becomes part of who we are.

Jesus multiplied it not just once but twice. His men followed him not because of the miracles but because of the food. His first miracle was wine making. His last act was a meal with those he loved. Though He knew and valued its importance he could also do with out it for long periods of time while under temptation. When his men worried about not having brought any sandwiches along on a boat ride, He did not. He had self control. He knew who His provider was.

How we do with our penis is directly related to what we eat. If we eat bad, we feel bad, then do bad. As apposed to the better choice; eat good, feel good, do good. To keep your penis under control you must do relationship well. To do relationship well you must do food well. If I am meeting with someone we are most often eating. It’s communion. The body of Christ broken for you. Have a glass of wine with your meal,… the blood of Christ shed for you. When we do it together, we connect deeper. It’s intimate.

When I made a list of things that I wanted in a woman that I wanted to marry my list went like this. 1. Jesus freak 2.Hot 3.Great cook. Prayer works gentlemen because I got them all. Diane is a phenomenal cook, it’s in her genes. Her Grandma Flo had a restaurant in Chino CA called “Flo’s Airport Café. It was John Wimber’s favorite restaurant. John’s wife Carol even mentioned it in his biography “The Way It Was.” How cool is that? Women ask/tell me all the time “I want to get married, do you know any men for me?” My response is “can you cook?” It’s been said many times that a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Things change, but that will not.

As you well know we can over do things. Last winter I looked at myself in the mirror and thought I either need to lose weight or buy all new clothes. So I opted for the former and in the last 8 months I have lost 35 lbs.. I did it by increased activity, not over eating, and not touching anything but water after dinner until breakfast. Now I’m buying new smaller clothes, feel a ton better, and enjoying food even more.

Diets don’t work. God didn’t put cinnamon rolls on earth to punish us. I eat what my body wants until I am full. Instead of packing as much in and fast as I can I now eat slowly, thoughtfully, gratefully. Food tastes so much better when we are hungry. Sex is so much better when we have shown restraint. Over eating is food masturbation.

When I was a kid the rich ate processed food and the poor ate from scratch. Now the rich eat from scratch and the poor eat processed. 1 in 4 Americans gets cancer and it’s primarily linked to diet. If you can’t pronounce what’s on the ingredient list, or God didn’t create that way it shouldn’t go in your mouth. If you cook and bake from scratch and not out of a box your body will thank you for it and it will be reflected in your purity.

Cheap food isn’t cheap. You’ll pay now with how you feel, and later with your health. The math alone on future medical bills would off set any immediate help to your bill fold. We are on the back side of 3 generations off post industrial age group think that has locked into the mindset of cheap food is more important than quality food. When the poverty mind set wants to pull you down remember who you’re your provider is. He wants the best for you in every way, and He is faithful. Ps 23 I shall not want. Ps 37 I was young and now I am old and I have never seen the righteous beg for bread. Ps 147:14 He satisfies you with the finest wheat.

Go organic. The nutrition levels are a minimum of double so your body will be satisfied with less. You will stay away from chemical inputs, synthetic fertilizer, and GMOs. What we feed our bodies becomes who we are and is married to our sexuality. Cooking and eating right is work. It takes time to learn, but it will pay you back today, and tomorrow.

If you reflect back on a sexual failure it is most likely linked to a fried burrito, as much as it is to isolation, or being tired. Taking care of yourself is loving you. When you love you now you have the ability to love others. Its one big happy circle of love coming back to wrap its arms around you and give you what you need.

Great sex

Author:  Mark Peterson
Categories:  Teaching

There is no good sex outside of marriage. You can have plenty of sex, but you will never have great sex because the only thing that can be satisfied is that carnal part of you. Our carnal man is that guy who feels like he just got out of prison every day. He is the bull that wants to breed every cow on a 5, 000 acre ranch.

Great sex is a full connection of body, mind, soul, spirit, shared dreams, beliefs, faith, friendship, and commitment. When all those pistons are firing, only then gentlemen will you be fulfilled sexually.

If you are single and want to have great sex, you must get your carnal man under control before you get married. If you don’t get it under control, marriage will not only not help you, it will make it worse. Fixing the problem will be much harder because you not only have to work through your crap but the mess you have now created with your wife.

When you get married, or you are married you will still need to control your carnal man. If you let him rule, he will beat down all the other things that make for great sex and leave you empty. If you give into your carnal man, that is all you will get.

Great sex is a lot of work. That beautiful orgasm and deep connection that both you and your wife will have/ or are having is because self control won, and your carnal man tapped out.

Jesus set the standard

Author:  Mark Peterson
Categories:  Teaching

When we talk about self gratification we are in a different place than the world is. Gods call on our life is to be Holy, because He is Holy. He is in us by His Spirit, and what burns in Him naturally burns in us.

Jesus is the model for sexual purity. In 1 John 2:6 it says “The one who says he abides in Him ought to himself to walk in the same manner as He walked.” At a weak moment when Christ was tired, hungry, and lonely He was offered everything the world had. He turned it down, because He knew who He was, who His Father was, and where He was going. He could not be bought.

Jesus was rejected by his people, misunderstood by His brothers/friends, abandoned by his parents (forgetting Him in Jerusalem for a day). He had every opportunity to sexualize His need, numb/control the pain of rejection and misunderstanding.

We can’t imagine Jesus getting his feet wiped off with a women’s tears, or perfume and looking down her shirt, seeing her breast and thinking to himself “I am really wanting to do some very unholy things with this woman! But people are looking up to me. I am the religious leader around here, I can’t do it, but I want to do it, but I can’t, but I want to…..Oh,..wait,  I have a better idea. Hey you guys, you wait here, and I am going to go off alone to masturbate……I mean pray.”

We know that scenario is not true because a man who sweats blood would not masturbate.  He was without sin. Paul defines it well in Ephesians 5:3 Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality. Jesus set the standard on sexual purity for us to follow. Be Holy as I am Holy.

From rules to relationship

Author:  Mark Peterson
Categories:  Teaching

Rules are for people who don’t know God. They govern the lowest common denominator in society and end up restricting others who don’t need them. Israel leaves slavery, wanders around for a bit and while their leader is gone on a hike with God they have an orgy. Note that up until this time they have no rules at all. Shortly after their “sexual free for all” they get some rules i. e. the 10 commandments. Not long after that they also get hundreds of pages of….you guessed it, more rules. That didn’t really work out that great in the long run so…. God shows up down the road a few thousand years later when Jesus sums up all the old rules into just one “love your neighbor as yourself” and things change from rules to relationship.

Years back when we started this group we had a bunch of rules too. Now we just have one, confidentiality. If we run with that and the summation of the law “love your neighbor as yourself” Then we’re good. We are governed by relationship, not a formula/program or ministry outline.  I don’t like rules, never have. I vote and donate toward causes that promise to give us less rules. We don’t want to be guided by punishment but by love. We don’t want photo enforcement but a relationship. Rules can help get you out of slavery but they can also keep you there. It is for freedom that Christ set us free.

This summer we visited the Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs. Throughout the campus there are lines in the cement that all first year cadets must walk on double time with their bag in their left hand. All other cadets walk freely where ever they want to go. We saw two first year cadets take a small step off the line and get chastised by upperclassmen. That preaches doesn’t it? Rules get you in line but its relationships that keep you there. This is a good picture of what the men in this group do because it works. Over time and as they establish sobriety and relationships they take more freedom. Yet at the same time they are confident in keeping other men that have not earned the right to that freedom on the line. As time goes by and they get comfortable,… they take even more liberty and are guided by the freedom that comes in a relationship with Jesus Christ. It’s a beautiful, messy, dangerous process.  God designed it that way for us to live because you are a wanted man. He paid the ransom for you, not dead, but fully alive.